The question that threw me

I was talking about relationships with a buddy the other day and he told me that you don't really know your girlfriend until you have a major fight. He said you need to know if she fights fair or dirty. The way he explained it at the time made good sense. He then asked if the GF and I have had a fight. I told him no, it's no big deal. He says to wait and see.

When it comes to relationships, i am very flexible. I don't care what we eat, what's on TV, where we go for the most part. I like to think that i am as flexible as Stretch Armstrong. On the other side of the equal sign is the inflexibility. I will not waiver on my belief in Pro-Life, 2nd Amendment, Catholicism and my creed "Loyalty above all else, except honor"

I was tested in one of the above listed beliefs. It was not my shining hour. I could have responded, retorted and reacted much better than i did. In the end, it is what it is. Now she knows without a shadow of a doubt where i stand. There was a rift created between us and i created this rift. For this i take responsibility.

I was confiding in a great friend and he asked me if i Love her. I looked back at him and said "What is Love?" Neither of us could define it. We had examples but what is the real definition of love. Love will make a person do things they wouldn't normally do. What causes this? Is it a chemical thing? What makes a person do stupid things for love? What is the difference between Love and Lust?

To me, Love is when you put that persons needs and wants before your own. It is as simple as that. Love can not be measured by money or any other monetary object. It is a feeling that makes you want to please the one you Love.

A buddy of mine was having relations with a married women. I asked him how he could do something like that. How would he like it if some guy was banging his wife. He told me " I never saw a ring that could plug that hole. I saw a rock that could plug it once, but that was only one time" I guess the definition of Love varies from person to person.

Am I in Love? Maybe, sometimes i think i am and sometimes i think our relationship is so fragile that the blowing wind may break it. I figure that when she becomes the most important thing in my life and i put her before everything, then that is real love. Only time will tell.

The following are what other call Love:


"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." - Sophocles

"Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed." - John Tarrant

"We love because it's the only true adventure." - Nikki Giovanni

"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker

"Love is friendship set on fire." - unknown

"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe

"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong

"Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions." - Isaac Bashevis Singer

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes

"Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it." - Robert Mitchum

"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker

"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman

"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous

"Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer Maria Rilke

"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks

"To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." - Karen Sunde

"A love song is just a caress set to music." - Sigmund Romberg

"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov

"Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever." - unknown

"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." - Erich Fromm

"In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." - Bill Wundram, Iowa Quad Cities Times

"Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning

"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
A medley of extemporanea;
And love is a thing that can never go wrong;
And I am Marie of Roumania."
- Dorothy Parker

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."
- Woody Allen,