11 March 2008

The duality of man

Do you remember the movie Full Metal Jacket? Joker had "Born to Kill" written on his helmet and a Peace sign on his jacket. He said it represented the duality of man.

I think i know what he meant. The way i look at things now is different than when i was married. I used to be the person that people came to when they had a moral question. It was easy to talk against pre-maritial sex and other topics because i was married.

Now i am worried as being viewed as a hypocrite. I haven't been out fooling around or nothing but i am sure a time will come when my stance on any subject will be questioned. I have realized that perception plays a large part in Morality. At least from an Ethical stand point.

Doing the right thing is a lot easier when you are married. My wife and i had an agreement that we would not go to bars. Now i can go to bars if i so desire. I haven't had the desire yet, but a bar is where ones morals will be questioned i believe.

At what point does loneliness over rule your belief? Can loneliness over rule your Morals? I guess i will burn that bridge when i get to it.

4 comments:

canivalpo said...

sounds like you're trying to prepare yourself to cross that bridge. just don't do it. and if you do will it be bad because you had fun or will it be bad because you have morals and had fun.
All things aside you will have to cross that bridge someday. You should think of other things to preoccupy your mind with for now. I'll think of some good jokes to send you.

Biggun6969 said...

Do only the lonely go to bars? You make it sound like that is the only place to find other singles. There are alternatives. Let me ask you this; did you stop going to bars because you had no reason/desire to go to them or did you stop going only because of the agreement you and your spouse had?

I have argued this topic before. The whole “good Christians don’t go to bars” bull that is. It is possible to go to a bar, enjoy a few drinks, dance, play some pool, and still look at your priest in the face Sunday morning; if you do it right. So let us break it down. Where in the good book does it say not to drink alcohol in moderation? Heck, the guy you worship turned good water into wine (John 2:1-11 I believe-I don’t have a bible in front of me right now). Where does it say in the good book not to dance? How about playing pool. Where is that one in the book? Thing is, none of these activities will make you less of a Christian; when done in moderation. If you were to overindulge and drink to the point where you are doing damage to your body, a temple of God, then yes that is wrong. But hell, you can do that at the house.

Most folks don’t see going to bar as wholesome family fun. They see the negative; drunks, whores, and other things to make sure you get that first class ticket to hell. For many, that is exactly what it is. A den of sin. A place to forget your morals and beliefs. But that is not all there is in a bar. That is why I don’t see anything wrong with it, but if you can not control yourself, then stay out. I don’t feel that married folks should go to bars by themselves. Not because of a lack of trust, but merely because of the crowd that will be there. My spouse should not put herself in that position.

In answer to your questions: 1. never, 2. it can, but it shouldn’t. It won’t be a bridge that will be burning when you make wrong decisions. Later.

Anonymous said...

Some men have not done the right thing when they were married. (does a New York Governor come to mind??) What is easy?? The more you do the right thing and stand for your faith and principles, the more there are people to laugh and ridicule. The more the little voice with the pointy tail whispers that it is OK because it feels good. Lonelines nevers rules, it stings, it hurts, and it depresses. But it does not rule. The voice with the pointy tail just gets louder sometimes during loneliness.
But hey, wait a minute, you have lots of brothers to be there for you. And in time maybe someone of the fairer sex will come along, may even meet her at a dance at a NICE bar.
But you rule, not loneliness, you make the choice. Mostly good ones. When asking for God's help they should be mostly good choices.

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Anonymous said...

i think i understand what you are saying. now im only 16, with a very small understanding of topic. im trying to understand something that seems hopeless, but here me out.

if a serial murder has a child, is this an example of the duality of man?

is the ying-yang symbol?

saying you believe in god, but you don't sin?

preaching to people not to liter, but driving a car wherever you go?

a boxer saying fighting is bad.

if you need me to explain my examples, feel free to ask. but i'm preety sure they do. basically anything that contradicts itself is an example of the duality of man. at least thats what i got outta reading other peoples posts from around the web.